We’ve all been taught that you are supposed to put your needs before your wants. Eat your vegetables before dessert. Save your money instead of splurging on something frivolous. Finish your homework before indulging in mindless entertainment. The message is clear: discipline first, enjoyment later. While this is a sensible approach to life, I think […]
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It is spring again—a few days after the solstice—birds are singing while flowering trees spray white, purple, and yellow buds into the warming air. Daffodils bloom in ditches across town, and my lawn is sprinkled with tiny purple and white confetti, a quiet celebration of the season’s return. One of my favorite quotes is by
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What a 39-Year-Old Mother of 5 Taught Me About Conviction On the week of my 39th birthday I was ruminating about being almost 40 when I came across the jarring story of a woman who was 39 years old when she was tragically murdered by the Klu Klux Klan in 1965. Viola Liuzzo had
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The Beauty of Becoming: Letting Go of Comparison in Aging I’ve started to notice my aging more than ever. As I’ve spent time building online content and going through photos, I see how much my skin has changed in just a few years. It gives me pause to think about how that process is accelerating.
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The In-Between: The Goo Before the Wings Did you know that when a caterpillar enters a cocoon, its body turns into a kind of organic soup? That ten-dollar word—metamorphosis—so often used to describe the transformation from caterpillar to butterfly is as profound as it sounds. The molecules that once formed the crawling creature completely disassemble
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Chasing Approval: The Pattern That Kept Me Running The ways we attach, connect, and navigate intimacy—especially in our romantic lives—are often shaped by the core wounds of our formative years. Wounding happens within relationships, and so does healing—it’s not a solitary process. Without realizing it, we replay old patterns, unconsciously yearning to break them through
The Ache for Approval: How My Past Shaped My Partnerships Read More »
I’ve been asked, more than once, in the last few months, what I’m looking for in a partner. Not only have I had trouble answering that question directly, but I’ve also felt a deep resistance to answering. Just under the surface of that avoidance is my long held belief that the perfect partner doesn’t exist
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