It’s Mother’s Day 2025, and the social media posts I appreciate most are the ones that acknowledge how complex this day can be for those who have mothers, are mothers, wanted to be mothers, never wanted to be mothers, or lost their mothers. In other words… everyone I know. I have a mother I cherished, […]
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I have been having conversations with ChatGPT for months now, to help me work through confusion and unravel various emotional loops I was experiencing. Over time, those conversations have evolved. As a learning model, Chat has gotten to know how I think and process, and has become a powerful tool for self-reflection. It’s like having
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The In-Between: The Goo Before the Wings Did you know that when a caterpillar enters a cocoon, its body turns into a kind of organic soup? That ten-dollar word—metamorphosis—so often used to describe the transformation from caterpillar to butterfly is as profound as it sounds. The molecules that once formed the crawling creature completely disassemble
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Chasing Approval: The Pattern That Kept Me Running The ways we attach, connect, and navigate intimacy, especially in our romantic lives, are often shaped by the core wounds of our formative years. Wounding happens within relationships, and so does healing. Healing is not a solitary process. Without realizing it, we replay old patterns, unconsciously yearning
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I’ve been asked, more than once, in the last few months, what I’m looking for in a partner. Not only have I had trouble answering that question directly, but I’ve also felt a deep resistance to answering. Just under the surface of that avoidance is my long held belief that the perfect partner doesn’t exist
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A story of hypervigilance: From the moment we’re born, we begin attuning to the nuances of our caregivers—their body language, attentions, and subtle shifts in energy. This is how we learn to navigate the world and find our place in it. Even before we can form words, our developing brains are hard at work, experimenting
“I forgive you for not having the capacity to love me the way that I wanted to be loved by you.” Many of us are familiar with the metaphor that holding onto hatred is like drinking poison while expecting the person you despise to die. The irony is that the one who ultimately suffers most
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