As life unfolds into a new calendar year (in 2025) it’s a good time for self-reflection. I’ve been in the process of coming to terms with my ambitious nature — my penchant for overcommitment and striving.
Going into this year, I’ve decided to ditch goal-setting, let myself off the hook, and see where it leads—a year without a destination.
It’s just one year right?
If I go nowhere, that’s okay, I can revisit next year.
That’s not to say that I don’t have a direction in mind. I know how I’d like this year to unfold, big shifts I’d like to make in my career, more authenticity in my relationships, and my intention to live and speak my truth more fully.
A year without a destination is about taking the pressure off myself to perform or reach a deadline. It’s a powerful shift toward flow and easefulness. I’ve been one of those that likes to beat herself up for not achieving more and greater; never satisfied with what I accomplish, goaded by the pressure to arrive somewhere, and always feeling BEHIND.
2024 led me through deep inner healing and grieving my perceived lost potential and missed opportunities. I spent the year engaging in transformative practices to release shame and the painful regret of not being at a destination I thought I should have arrived at by the age of 40. Through this process of integration, I’ve come to realize that I am exactly where I’m meant to be, and I’ve never been off course.
2025 is calling me into compassionate presence, into that Powerful Point that is All we ever have — Here and Now. I can learn to live fully in this moment, experience what is arising and unfolding, and trust that that is enough, and that I Am enough. I allow myself the grace to simply be along the way, knowing that each moment, each small shift, is meaningful.
As I mentioned, I have intentions as to how I want to show up in the year ahead. For example, I feel called to make a career shift, but I allow that to happen in its own beautiful and synchronous time. I’m doing everything required to make that shift… building a resume, networking, applying to openings… but I release the angst of constant striving and forcing the outcome. We often struggle and discount progress when it isn’t visible, but I’m choosing to trust the process however it unfolds.
Growth isn’t always about pushing forward, but about tuning in, allowing space, and releasing pressure. It’s a journey of nurturing the Inner Self through softening, letting go of rigid expectations, and making peace with where we are. Sometimes, the most significant shifts happen when we let go of the need to do and simply be, even if it feels devoid of visible progress.
Life only has one static destination, death, and none of us are writing that into our day planners. So then, LIVING is about who we become across the journey. Any destinations we pursue turn out to be dynamic and ever-shifting anyhow. I allow myself the freedom to circle back on myself as many times as I need to (sacred circles), without judgement, without rushing.
I give myself permission to revisit things as many times as needed. There’s no such thing as “failure” here — only ongoing learning and integration. Every time I return to a point of self-doubt or struggle, it’s simply an invitation to deepen my understanding and further release the layers that no longer serve my Higher Self.
There is a profound wisdom in this permission — the recognition that my journey will unfold at its own pace, and that’s exactly how it’s meant to be. Accomplishment and satisfaction come from a place of BEING, rather than the transitory experience of Achieving.
I come home to myself — no longer performing or striving for external validation.
By letting go of the need to become something outside of myself, I’m embracing a life of more authenticity and the peaceful path of inner harmony.
